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Some Thoughts on Marriage

July 8, 2015

My husband had the privilege of officiating a wedding last month in California. It is always such a joy to witness two believers make the beautiful commitment to love one another for the rest of their lives….for the rest of their lives…FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES! That is a huge commitment! Do couples really know what they are saying when they exchange their vows?!

This is a version of a traditional wedding vow that I found online:

“I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.”

This means on awesome days and horrible days,

on days when the kitchen is spotless and one days when the sink is overflowing from yesterday’s dishes and there are still 2 trash bags on the floor that need to be taken out,

on days when your family goes out to dinner and strangers compliment you on how well-behaved your children are and on days when it’s just the opposite,

on days when everyone is super healthy and on days when you are exhausted tending to your spouse and children who have the flu,

on days when your car is running well and on other days when your car needs $2,000 in major repairs and you only have $100 in the bank,

on days when you just had a beautiful baby but both of you are super sleep deprived, dreaming of a nap, and then the baby has a blow-out diaper and each of you is looking at the other to change it,

on days when you didn’t listen to your spouse’s advice and you broke something and need to tell them about your mistake;

Will you love each other even through this?

Every marriage has their special, fun moments as well as their low, difficult ones. But whichever moment you are experiencing in your marriage, I guarantee that this verse will help you through it,

“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.” Philippians 2:3

I often hear this verse applied to every relationship in one’s life other than our marriage, but shouldn’t our spouses be the first one we apply this verse to? This humbling exhortation is very much for myself as it is for every married person out there. The next time we are tempted to think our spouses should be doing something more for us, let us use this as an opportunity to do something to bless them. I never do this perfectly, but I figure, as long as I don’t give up trying, we will be okay;)

If you are so bold, I would love to hear your comments and/or applications of this in your own marriage:)




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